How to Win Everyday

I have a secret to tell you. Not many people know it.

The status of being a winner is purely up to YOU.

Deciding if you are a winner is subject to the narrative you create for yourself in your head.

Take for example a father who works as a janitor for 35 years, but sees his children go to college and graduate. Many people would see that man and not see a winner, but he had a vision of his kids graduating from college while he was working and he defined winning as watching his children graduate from college, that's how he defined it, so he is a winner.

Or consider a hedge fund manager worth 250 million dollars, but he can't get his golf handicap below 10. In his mind he is a loser. He can't be and won't be excepted by his pears, he won't be invited to the best and most exclusive golf clubs all his friends are part of, and because of that, he wife will probably leave him because she sees him as a failure since he couldn't secure a position at "the" club to be at.

The janitor has a narrative which makes him content, happy, able to connect and have intimacy with his family.

The hedge fund manager's narrative will only lead to destruction and despair.

Both are solely capable of writing their own narrative and so are you.